How To Be "In The Moment"

Published on 13 September 2021 at 09:00

Read Time: 5 minutes 29 seconds.

“Being in the moment.” Sounds super cliche, I know. But being present is a literal scientifically proven method for reducing anxiety, increasing your physical health, and helping you align with your true self. When you’re aware of what’s going on right now, you’ll be able to fight negative thoughts and emotions without as much resilience as if you weren’t present & recognizing those emotions and thoughts. 


When you are present in the moment, you're more aware of what is going on around you. Time literally does not exist in the present moment. It’s just happening right here & right now. A lot of us, myself included, will focus on the past or worry about the future. But, nothing is happening there. Anything that happened in the past already happened and there is nothing we can do to change that. Anything that happens in the future hasn’t happened yet, and therefore we can’t control that either. 


This is going to sound...mean, for lack of a better word. Some people have a victim mindset. Those are the people that think everything that has ever happened has only happened to them and that’s the only thing that matters. They surround themselves with negativity because that’s what they have convinced themselves they deserve. 


On the other hand, there are people with superior mindsets. These are the people who think their future is all planned out. They know that they are going to be wildly successful at whatever they want to do and nothing can stop them. But, when life happens, as it does, they get setbacks. They feel failure twice as hard as someone who is in the present moment. 


That’s not to say there is anything wrong with either of those mindsets, and we all have demonstrated both perspectives at some point in our lives. The problem arises when we constantly think that way. 


It’s easy to say “just be present”, but it’s also one of the hardest things to train your mind to do. All around us we are bombarded with ads for the future, family asking what we have planned for our lives, friends planning their futures. As kids we’re told about retirement but never told about the 65+ years of life until then. 


We also are human, and that means we do remember past experiences. We might stay there and feel guilt or sadness because of how things used to be. You might not feel a lot of positive emotions when pondering on your past. But, that person isn’t you anymore. You cannot go back and change who you were, what you have done, or what has happened. When you’re thinking about the future, you might also have those same negative emotions of doubt and anxiety. 


But you can control where your mind goes, and how long it stays there. 


The solution I’m about to give you is only a solution when you put in the effort. You have to try. You have to be ready to try. That’s why our personal coaching system has such an in-depth process before we even start. If you aren’t ready, it won’t work. You’ve been living like this for at least 20 years, you CANNOT expect yourself to change your thought patterns overnight. 


The solution? Balance. You have to look to the future so you can plan ahead to a certain degree. If you have a business meeting tomorrow or school starts in 3 weeks, that’s planning and looking ahead. We also have to be aware of our past experiences, too. 


How do you balance those things out? By being aware of your thoughts. 


Keep these two things in mind before you try the exercises below.

  1. Focus on the past to learn, not to yearn. 
  2. Think small & short. If you find yourself thinking or worrying about the future, set a timer for 5 minutes. Write down what you’re thinking. Consider what you can immediately control out of those things & what you can’t. Then, bring yourself right back to now when you’re timer goes off. Think about what you have to do right now to either prevent or help those things you’ve thought about in the future. 


Alright, I’ll leave you with 3 exercises to try & what benefit they give. 

  1. Write in a journal the second you wake up. Before you check your phone. Write freely for 5 to 10 minutes. Whatever you’re thinking about, write it down. Don’t read it when you’re done. Instead, tell yourself something positive for the day. Keep saying it outloud or in your head while you’re getting ready. 
    • The benefit? Once you’ve written these “wake-up time” thoughts down, your brain is going to recognize that you have acknowledged them. Even if you take no action, you’ve relayed information from your mind into the world. Think of it as “cleaning off the shelves.” you took out the junk & replaced it with shiny stuff. 
  2. At the end of every day, say out loud what you accomplished during that day. “I woke up on time. I got to work on time.” Celebrate all of the things that you did no matter how small you think they are. Write these things down in another journal. 
    • This is a great way to measure your progress towards your goals & gives you something to look back on at the end of the week. 
  3. Body. Scans. These are difficult for some, especially if you’re a chronic overthinker. Make this something that you do every day, whether in the morning or at night. Lay down somewhere with no distractions, or minimal distractions. Focus on every single part of your body, starting with your toes and moving all the way up. Pause at each section to really feel your body. This is going to be 10-15 minutes of you just focusing on what’s going on right now. 
    • Besides this being a great exercise in being in the moment, this is good for your physical health, too! Within a few days, you’re going to start to notice how your body feels regularly, so if something were to be off with your body, you’ll know. 

Even if you just take a few minutes a day to tune out all your other thoughts and feel yourself where you are at that moment, that’s fine! 


If you want to dive more into yourself and who you are & how to shift your mindset, take our Recharge Your Life Assessment HERE! That’ll show you how we can benefit you in your current goals & determine if you’d be a great fit for one of our 3 programs. 


Talk to you soon!


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