Forgiveness

Published on 20 December 2021 at 09:00

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Forgiveness: 1 : to stop feeling anger toward (someone who has done something wrong) : to stop blaming (someone) forgive your enemies - Merriam-Webster

 

Forgiveness is something that we think about often, but think about incorrectly. Some of us think that forgiving is forgetting what happened, what someone did, or even condoning their behavior. 

 

In this post, we’re going to answer some of the basic questions surrounding forgiveness. 

 

First, let’s discover what forgiveness is and what it is not. 

 

Forgiveness is YOUR choice. It is not forgiving someone because they ask or demand you to do that. 

Forgiveness is setting healthy boundaries and redefining any boundaries that already existed and had been broken. It is not saying that you’ll no longer be sad or upset about what happened. 

Forgiveness is a process that can take years to achieve, and it’s not something that’s done easily. 

 

Often in forgiveness, we first have to look at ourselves. We need to forgive ourselves for what we did or did not do before we can extend that to anybody else. With that in mind, who deserves forgiveness? Do you? Does everybody?

 

YOU deserve forgiveness. Look back up at the top of this post at the definition of forgiveness. “To stop feeling anger toward someone.” That sentence speaks to YOU and how YOU feel. You deserve to feel angry when people do things that directly impact you on any level. But, you don’t deserve to live in anger the rest of your life because of what these people did. 

 

“Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace.” - Jonathon Lockwood Huie

 

So, yes. Everyone deserves forgiveness because YOU deserve forgiveness. And as we said, it’s a long process. That’s okay! Why is forgiveness even important? 

 

Physically, there are a lot of health benefits behind not living within a grudge your whole life. Emotionally, there are also tons of benefits. Forgiveness encourages compassion. It allows you to show more compassion towards others, instead of looking at the world through the lens of anger, betrayal, and sadness. 

 

Forgiveness also allows you to no longer be a victim of someone else’s actions. Forgiveness is not forgetting. Once you let go of the negative energy associated with holding a grudge, you can start becoming a bigger person. You can remember every single day what this person did to you or what the situation is, and wish them the worst by all means. But, make yourself the best version of yourself out of compassion, not rage. 

 

Forgiveness frees you. It frees you from constant upset that they still haven’t received their karmic justice. It frees you of the negative thoughts and emotions you have whenever this person crosses your mind. 

 

Everyone deserves forgiveness. Not everybody deserves forgetting. 

 

What about when forgiveness just doesn’t make sense? What if someone did something so terrible that you can’t even begin to imagine forgiving them? 

 

This is where you define forgiveness as it means to you. It is not about the other person. It is about YOU. 

 

“Letting go of a rattlesnake is good for the snake, but it’s also good for you, too.”

 

Take from this article what resonates the most to you. Share in the comments below your thoughts, positive or negative. 

 

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